| Overview of Part I - The Essence of Self Control |
Part I of A Woman's Prerogative addresses the Essence of Self
Control. It is the basis of everything that follows.
It first addresses the true definition of control. Many people state
they do not have the desire to control anyone - yet - we are either
subject to control or possess control. This is evidenced every
day in our normal lives.
You will learn the difference between "elective control" and
"subjective control." Why we live, think, and work based upon
the theory of second dimensional thought - which is wrong!!
It explains how to recognize third dimensional thought, what it is,
how it works, and how to utilize it in our daily lives. Third
Dimensional Thought is the most powerful force within us.
It is vital that one understands that it becomes impossible to
control anything unless one has mastered control over
themselves.
Control. It is the basis of everything that follows.
It first addresses the true definition of control. Many people state
they do not have the desire to control anyone - yet - we are either
subject to control or possess control. This is evidenced every
day in our normal lives.
You will learn the difference between "elective control" and
"subjective control." Why we live, think, and work based upon
the theory of second dimensional thought - which is wrong!!
It explains how to recognize third dimensional thought, what it is,
how it works, and how to utilize it in our daily lives. Third
Dimensional Thought is the most powerful force within us.
It is vital that one understands that it becomes impossible to
control anything unless one has mastered control over
themselves.
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The Essence of Self Control teaches one how to understand the difference between
"want" and "need". It explains the different facets of motivation and details the
importance of understanding ignorance.
You will learn the basic elements of stress, anger, jealousy, envy, and how to
recognize them.
In short, The Essence of Self Control is the foundation upon which you will build
your empire of control and in doing so, progress, change, and modify your life as
you never before thought possible.
"want" and "need". It explains the different facets of motivation and details the
importance of understanding ignorance.
You will learn the basic elements of stress, anger, jealousy, envy, and how to
recognize them.
In short, The Essence of Self Control is the foundation upon which you will build
your empire of control and in doing so, progress, change, and modify your life as
you never before thought possible.
| READ ACTUAL EXCERPTS FROM THE BOOK, PART I BELOW |
| Page 51 The first thing one should realize about arguments is - there is no winner. The moment one engages in this type of activity, he loses, because control can only be evidenced “outside” the sphere of influence. One must step “inside” that sphere to argue. Moreover, the entrance fee is your ability to rationalize and control yourself in the process. Consider the fact that “power” is not argumentative; it speaks for itself, needs no defense, and is always in control. Anger therefore must be deemed a weakness of considerable dimension and fatal to the Essence of Self Control because it removes any vestiges of rational, logical, and symmetrical thought. If every time you started to get angry over something you asked yourself what was the third or fourth dimensional reason for this anger; then the process of rational and symmetrical thought would excise the anger. Anger is primarily caused by misinterpretation, presumption, assumption and in some cases a combination of all three. Each of these causes is deeply rooted in ignorance. A definition of ignorance is therefore required. To be ignorant is to be denied the opportunity to learn. Webster defines it as: “unaware.” “Caused by or showing lack of knowledge.” Many of us assume ignorance to be insulting; however, we are all ignorant of many things. For example, a renowned chemist would be ignorant of the process used to fly a jet plane. There is a saying – “Ignorance is bliss.” I am confidant the statement was born from the fact that sometimes its better “not” to know certain things. We therefore find ourselves in a blissful state because we are impervious to what actually is going on in our surrounds. |
| Page 50 potential of making you angry, but prior to accepting that anger you questioned the act in comprehensive detail and placed yourself in the position of the person perpetuating the act or the forces creating it; then the chances of your becoming angry would be small. How many times have you been in an argument with someone and they refused to speak? In most cases their act of silence only aggravates and causes your anger to become greater. At this point the anger is focused on the silence rather than the act creating the initial anger. You then go to great lengths to force the other person to respond to your anger. You will say things and do things out of your normal pattern and your entire focus is on eliciting a response from your “opponent.” In short, anger has changed the composition of your personality resulting in you becoming someone foreign to your natural state. Rather than you controlling the anger, the anger is controlling you. Once the apology, agreement, or even lack of silence has occurred, the fire of anger generally subsides rather quickly. If not for the third dimension constantly feeding it fuel, it would extinguish completely. Unfortunately, the third dimensional fuel, whether it is insecurity or fear (the two most prevalent and destructive), is helpless when there is absent an attack. It must therefore continue to provoke an attack to allow its defensive mechanism to employ. Anger is the father of argument and argument is the primary tool used to provoke or continue the attack. The good thing is; any argument takes two participants. There cannot be an argument if one of the parties refuses to participate. |
| Anger We must first try and understand the composition of anger. What makes us angry, and catalyzes the action we take as a result? Anger is born from ignorance. It’s an emotion vested in presumption and based upon ignorance of the event creating the anger. For example, how many times have you gotten angry over an event only to find the cause of the event was a perfectly logical chain of circumstances totally unrelated to you? Anger is certainly a third and frequently a fourth dimensional being, because the third dimension contains the reason for the reason for our anger but the forth dimension contains the reason for the third.. This effectively makes anger a window through which others (trained in the discipline,) are able, to a degree, to view our motivations. Those who get violently angry are reacting to a third or forth dimensional force. For example, let’s suppose you are driving to a very important appointment. The person in front of you is driving slow and blocking the lane. You become angry at the driver for driving slow and blocking the lane. The action is your anger. The reason for the action is his slow driving, but the third dimensional reason for your anger is the simple fact you fear being late. The fourth dimensional reason is because you wonder what they will think of you if you are late, which is synonymous with insecurity. On other occasions, how many times have you been running late but were unconcerned about being late because you were “secure” in the knowledge that it did not matter? Just think – if every time something occurred that had the Page 49 |